"Just pretend you're in a movie. Be as brave and as full of love as the main character. Because we all need to believe in movies, sometimes."


- this one reminds me of you.

General theory of Love

The neurally ingrained Attractors of one lover warp the emotional virtuality of the other, shifting emotional perceptions - what he feels, sees, knows. When somebody loses his partner and says a part of him is gone, he is more right than he thinks. A portion of his neural activity depends on the presence of that other living brain. Without it, the electric interplay that makes up him has changed. Lovers hold keys to each other's identities, and they write neurostructural alterations into each other's networks. Their limbic tie allows each to influence who the other is and becomes.

For those who attain it, the benefits of deep attachment are powerful - regulated people feel whole, centered, alive. With their physiology stabilized from the proper source, they are resilient to the stresses of daily life, or even to those of extraordinary cicumstance.

Because relationships are mutual, partners share a single fate: no action benefits one and harms the other. The hard bargainer, who thinks he can win by convincing his partner to meet his needs while circumventing hers, is doomed. Withholding reciprocation cripples a healthy partner's ability to nourish him; it poisons the well from which she draws the sustenance she means to give. A couple shares in one process, one dance, one story. Whatever improves that one benefits both; whatever detracts hurts and weakens both lives.